Breaking Chains: Empowering Women Beyond Incarceration

by Brusha Tolise

Life can change in an instant, taking unexpected turns that challenge everything we know. From a young age, I believed I had control over my life, especially after enduring past traumas. However, after experiencing incarceration and being diagnosed with RRMS (Relapsing-Remitting Multiple Sclerosis), I realized how little control I truly had. My body began to deteriorate, and I had to relearn basic motor skills. The physical and emotional toll left me feeling vulnerable, defeated, and invisible as a young Black woman navigating life with a felony conviction.

After being homeless, I found refuge at the YW Labyrinth House, a program that supports women who have experienced incarceration. There, I isolated myself at first, reluctant to engage with others. Yet, over time, I began participating in group activities and slowly rebuilding my confidence. The turning point was when I realized I needed to regain independence through work.  Job applications were repeatedly denied due to my criminal record. Despite these setbacks, my case manager and close friends at Labyrinth House offered unwavering support, encouraging me not to give up.

Through these group activities, I met people who became instrumental in my recovery journey, including Kate B, who believed in me more than I believed in myself at the time. Having the knowledge that a complete stranger understands the obstacles I was having due to my convictions and persisted to help and support me without judgment. With her encouragement, I started with the YW Strive, a program that taught me Essentials and Entrepreneur Skills to use in my everyday life. Candice B was my facilitator and I can truly say that she was a power house instructor.  I had no knowledge after being one of the first graduates of the first cohort that I would be able to use every skill I learned from Candice very soon.

 In 2020, before Labyrinth Made Goods was launched, I participated in fragrance development meetings where we created LMGs’ Signature Scent, Serenity with Lisa Wilson, a renown fragrance expert. This was a pivotal moment for me, as it was the first time since before my  incarceration, I could have an opinion and it was used, seen, and heard. Lisa created Serenity using the moments/ memories of what a Serene environment looks like and feels like to the Labyrinth Clients, including myself. Most of us had similarities if not the same, the main thing that was shared was water, and shade coming from trees. Lisa has been a part of my life throughout this entire journey. I am glad I can call her my mentor and friend.

Lisa W.- mentor, LMG Fragrance expert,, Kate B.- former Director, Jim N and David D -and my dear friend Nita N., provided me with emotional and professional support. They believed in my potential when I struggled to see it myself. David and Jim, in particular, helped me break out of my shell, and their consistent encouragement motivated me to keep pushing forward no matter what. The push is what led me to accomplish /complete a 4 year goal that I made when attending Strive, to have my artwork in an Art Gallery.  I had no choice but to persevere over any obstacles with the level of encouragement I received from them. 

I also cherish the memories of working with Nita, who brought joy to dark moments in my life. Her spirit continues to inspire me through the Solidarity candle we created in her honor. I always have a Solidarity Candle in my house too, in hopes she will see the light that represents the love, appreciation and solidarity of our friendship.

My journey with LMG began as an apprentice in 2020 under Kate B, where I learned valuable skills starting off as an Apprentice. I eventually became the Lead Apprentice by asking for an extended apprenticeship. With each milestone, I gained the confidence to pursue my dreams. Kate was there and still is every step of the way. After my apprenticeship, I was hired as LMG’s first full-time employee as a Sales Assistant, I persevered through some difficult life changes and unknowns about the new position. I was able to go back to school receiving a certificate in sales to further develop my skills. Kate walked me through all of it, reassuring me that I can complete it and do more. I believe Kate saw things that I could never see in myself. Starting as an apprentice, she asked me if I was ready to take over the business. I looked at her in disbelief and told her I would never. I am glad to say July of 24 I became the Program Coordinator/ Supervisor at LMG.

Throughout my journey, I was blessed to be part of several YW programs, including Strive, Stepping Stones, LMG, Labyrinth House and a connection through the Labyrinth House which is  Dreams Are Possible. These programs provided me with tools to overcome my past and recognize my worth. Stepping Stones, in particular, helped me address the mental health struggles I faced, teaching me how to process trauma and manage stress.

I had the honor of showcasing my artwork at West of Center, Mclean County Art Center, sponsored and organized by David D and Jim N. Fulfilling a lifelong dream and goal. Having my art displayed in a gallery was a major accomplishment for me and a start to a new journey. The Soroptimist Women group celebrated my achievements, affirming that I had “dreamed it and reached it.” 

Looking back, the support I have received from YWCA Mclean transformed my life. The relationships I built through Labyrinth House, LMG, and the many people I met along the way empowered me to regain control over my life. Now, I am dedicated to giving back, advocating for women who have experienced incarceration, and creating resources in communities to offer the same support I received. Changing the narrative of our society. 

I currently have a leadership team that is patient, understanding and motivating. I can always pick up and call when in need of something about the business. Alina E., has taught me ways to manage emotions and be even more transparent and assertive throughout  my leadership role. 

My overarching dream is to see more programs like YW Labyrinth Made Goods in communities everywhere that accept men and women. The journey from trauma to empowerment has not been easy, but with the help of those around me, I continue to move forward. I’m determined to inspire others to continue pushing no matter what, reassuring them there is always someone there by their side rooting them on.